I lost my father 10 years ago and I was a train wreck for damn-near a year. I am not a picture of emotional stability so take this with a grain of salt. But, like Dylanzmama, having my husband just there and waiting for me to fly in and out of various emotional states was super comforting. It was the most comforting thing. If it were me, I would just want to be reminded that someone is there for me no matter what and that I can take all the time I need to go through what I am experiencing w/out jeopardizing the relationship. ((hugs))