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Old Jun 22, 2013, 12:29 PM
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Originally Posted by Redsoft View Post
I am gaining guilt more and more every day with the fact that I can't function as a normal adult. My fiance supports both of us, and it's not like he's making 3 figures or anything. We are in financial hardship now because I was laid off, and can't find a job that I can do though I keep searching and searching. He says he doesn't care, that he just wants me to feel better and if I never found a job he wouldn't hold it against me or anything of that sort... But things are just more difficult because of me. If I didn't have all of these problems and had a job again, could function like I used to and have a whole range of them open up as options, all of our financial worries would just fade away.

The guilt makes me sick to my stomach every day And, because of my anxiety, I worry that he is only just saying that he won't hold it against me, and then feel more stressed and worse. I've started eating less again. I feel constantly tired because I feel constantly under pressure.

Does anyone else deal with this? Guilt, guilt, guilt, all day long. How do you deal with that feeling...? "Get a job" is the simple answer for me, but obviously I'd have one by now again if it were that simple.
been there and done that, Redsoft, and know it's so hard. Still struggle, but it's better when I make whatever contribution I can, be something temporary (in the past tho), and a lot of stuff around the house, just trying to make things easier. And being as cheerful as I can, within myself, and for him. Course, easier said than done, but great when it works. I do wish you all the best! Please try not to be overwhelmed with guilt. Personally, I know that doesn't help you or your situation, tho again, easier said than done! Blessings!
Thanks for this!
Redsoft