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Originally Posted by Mapleton
Agreed. The standards I'm thinking of aren't cognitive distortions. They are simply things that other people would take for granted.
Sure you can accept it, rather than fight it, or ignore it. That's kind of tangential to the point though. Accepting takes an active disbelief. I guess the question is... if you knew with absolute certainty that, in combination, a situation would turn out badly... when the constituent parts were summed, would you go ahead with it, and deal with the failure through acceptance, or wouldn't it just make more sense to defect from the situation entirely?
Its true that no individual past act, behavior or situation is an absolute predictor of the future, but (especially) commonly repeated acts, behaviors or situations are the best predictors of the future. The world is not entirely deterministic, but its far more deterministic than chaotic
We know this from anthropology and political science.
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fine, then just give up then; but im not talking about just blindly doing stuff that's dangerous. i just think you're a bit confused about what acceptance means. i dont see how acceptance is disbelief. yes i agree with you that certain behaviors are more likely to cause certain effects.
this is what im talking about
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1. Just becasue your dad beat you when you were in the 3rd grade doesnt mean that your present boss is going to
2. just because some girl you knew 30 years ago ripped you off, that doesn't mean that your wife is going to
But I never said that you should blindly repeat patterns that you know are going to bring bad consequences--doing that is insanity not acceptance. I think you should look more into what that whole idea means, unless of course you just want to be mad.
