Most people complain about the lack of communication with a long distance relationship and here you are feeling suffocated...

Reading your post, I can't help think what is in it for you - and her? Do you have a game plan - a goal to get you both in the same country and are working towards it? It seems a lot of grief for very little reward to me at the moment. Perhaps try not to break it up for her, as you said, but perhaps for you if it feels right to end it?

hugs.