Rainbow, you know I relate to some of the issues you're having - with therapy, with T, with individuation...

But sometimes it seems your focus is so much on that... and I don't mean to sound harsh when I say this, but considering your posts and feelings lately - for instance the feelings of jealousy around your T's divorce - do you think the bigger issue could be your unhappiness in your marriage? I just feel that you should be doing things that you feel are right for YOU, not just to keep the peace with your husband... a husband who I think I'm right in remembering you've said does not give you what you need (emotionally and/or...)

It has taken you a lot of effort to get to where you are.. I'd just hate for you to have to pull the plug - on someone else's say so - just when you're getting somewhere.

Hope I'm not out of line, I just care about you