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Originally Posted by Leed
Hi ~ Since you say that HE's shy too, I don't think it would be a bad idea to send him an e-mail and just talk to him. I DON'T think that I'd tell him how I feel immediately though.
Perhaps in the first e-mail you could just chat a bit, to get re-acquainted. Then you could get SOME idea as to how he felt, and if he might be open to a meeting.
Then you could e-mail him again and ask him to meet you for lunch or coffee, etc., where you could talk a little more. THEN perhaps you could tell him how you'd always liked him and see how he takes it.  That will tell you whether or not you have to try to get over him, or if you two have a chance. 
I hope it turns out well for you. I wish you ALL the best, my friend. Let us know how things go, okay? God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee |
You don't think e-mail would come across as too cold or anything?
Another couple of things, not only is he shy (well, we're both very shy) but I think he might be kind of afraid of me too...I can be intimidating. And there is a age difference, which otherwise wouldn't be such a big deal except that I met him when I was 23 (graduate student) and he was 18 or 19 (college freshman). So now, I have a Masters and he's a junior...I don't know if that would normally make a difference, but it may be more intimidating. While we were both in school, I was kind of like a mentor to him.
I wasn't planning to tell him immediately...I still don't know if I'll ever tell him. It always backfires when I do...and not just with a "I'm not interested" sort of response, but usually lying to me or harassing me and ending up being more hurtful than what the average person experiences. And because of the circumstances of how we met, telling him I like him will make him not be around me at all ever again unless he actually DOES like me. Which I don't know what the probability of that is, but it can't be that high.