Rainbow - Books which I am finding very helpful are: "I Need Your Love - Is That True? How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead" by Byron Katie is a very powerful and different way of looking at life. She has written other books and on her website you will find videos of how she has talked people through some of their painful feelings.

Another book is by Marshall Rosenberg "Non-violent Communication: A Language of Life". It's all about discovering our needs and learning ways to communication our needs to others in a non-demanding way. Also, learning how to listen to others about their needs. There are also videos available on the web that demonstrate his method of relating to people.

I believe that these two approaches to the pain in our relationships in life would lessen and even eliminate the suffering we experience.