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Originally Posted by Lycanthrope
This varies between person to person. I'd also like to point out that having thought back over that comment, I don't think it's always correct. For instance, you can have a very sensitive gay guy, who could act very camp, yet he's also very confident.
So I made an error there.
I think overly sensitive in that maybe crying too much over silly things. Not funerals or anything like that. Crying over things like having an argument with their girlfriend of mother Someone who, when put into a position to stand up for themselves backs down and let's someone or a group of people treat them unfairly.
Someone who will let other people, including there GF treat them badly and accept it.
I think a more dominant aggressive personality would not allow this type of thing to happen.
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I see what you are saying. The exciting part for me has been - from time to time - to cause guys who were normally strong and never cried to cry, being filled with emotion and sadness. I can see how making a guy who is - using your definition - "overly sensitive" to begin with, cry is no big deal because he would cry over what you call "silly things" anyway, so his threshold is already low and bringing him to tears is no big deal. When a guy who normally does not cry cries because of a woman (say, because of separating from her), it is, by contrast, a big deal precisely because he is basically making a huge exception to the general rule, and that acknowledges that the woman has made a very significant impact on him. I plan to be nice, fun, and generous in the future and do not plan to cause tears in men anymore, but I admit that I caused them in the past and was happy I did. Causing an "overly sensitive" guy to cry would not have made me happy because there would have been no challenge in it for me, and I like challenges and winning low odds games.
I can see how a woman who does not necessarily prefer winning low odds games (winning as per her internal criteria - internal in her mind) might feel better, safer, and more at ease with somebody whom you would call "overly sensitive" - it just means that women are different and different women prefer different things. Back to OP:
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Originally Posted by DirtyDog04
I get the sense that most guys say they are simple. To me, they stereotypically like sports, drinking, and girls. I try to think I'm simple, and even try to act like it. Sometimes I even feel like it- that I like engines, music, girls, and work, and don't have to worry about much else. But more times then not, I'm just kidding myself. I'm often insecure, paranoid, jealous, guilty, and awkward around people. I like to think I'm tough, but I'm actually very sensitive, and go to great lengths to hide that  . |
OP conflates a whole lot of completely unrelated things. There is no relationship between liking or not liking sports and being or not being insecure and paranoid. OP seems to think that it is possible to cover up insecurity and paranoia by liking sports or engaging in other stereotypical things, but it is not possible - the only positive thing that liking sports would do (to the extent that one can WILL himself into liking something, which remains a big question) would be to allow for male bonding with other guys who genuinely like sports and have fun talking about sports with other guys. So it would allow a sense of belonging to a group of stereotypical guys, and that, possibly, would make OP more secure around girls, too. But it is a very indirect way to feeling more secure around girls. Just being himself and not trying to be somebody he is not would be a more direct way to feeling more secure around girls.