I don't have any words of wisdom to add to other people's posts, but i wanted to let you know that i can relate, and that this post really stuck with me. I had a t tell me, "i will not lie to you, but i will not tell you everything." I was like what? It sounds kind of similar to what your t is doing... withholding information. it sounds like miscommunication because you both know, and i feel like you know you both know, yet you are both giving each other the benefit of the doubt. That sort of thing really annoys me, because it makes therapy seem like a game. I don't know if you feel like this..? What i did in a similar situation was tell t outright how i felt and that it was not ok. I made sure that we had firm boundaries and were on the same page with everything. that seemed to clear up some of the issues.