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Jun 23, 2013, 05:34 PM
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Member Since: Sep 2006
Location: Maryland
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Good article:
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To separate does not mean to give up the close attachment that you feel toward parents or in any relationship. It does not mean having to be geographically separate. Separation means that you recognize that you are not the same as your loved significant other and that you react differently and think differently.
Individuation is the process that occurs after separation in which you grow your separate self, where you come to define who you are as an individual: I am funny, sensitive, carefree, serious, tough, anxious, kind, etc. You can only grow your self and discover who you are after you separate. This learning process involves success and failure and frustration. It is trial and error. It is research about who you are, what fits, what you like, don’t like, sometimes like, hate, sometimes hate. It is what makes you laugh, cry, run away, come close. It is who you are and who you are becoming. It is a lifelong process.
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From: Separation/Individuation: Transition to Adulthood
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