When I tell men I hate men who abuse and rape and hurt women, they get mad and start whining about how rape culture isn't real, how women have it better than men now. Well, if you say things like that, yeah, I probably don't like you- if the shoe fits!

I have men in my life that I love. If you don't want me to hate you, act like a human being and I'll treat you with the respect you deserve! But if you tell me that women are asking for rape, or excuse violence against us, I have no time in my life for you. I've been abused by men before, and most of the women in my life have lived through sexual violence. I don't have time anymore to coddle men who deny the reality of what most women go through.

As for women, especially young women, I'm always amazed by how resiliant we can be in the face of rape culture and sexism. But I think we need to do a better job of being there for each other. I see so many women who think that if they put down other women they'll be spared from sexism, but it doesn't work that way.