totally true, that could be very much part of the issue. I am very much pressured by myself and my H as well. Some times it just don't happen and I am good w/ that. It is not something you can force really.

Well I wish pot were an option. T said she would never encourage drug use, but ..... what ever I wanted to do. It would definitely help but it is illegal. She said just hold out till it becomes legal. or find another alternative which is ????? . Who knows what. I can't hole out for years waiting for it to be legal and I'm not so sure that choosing illegal in the name of good sex is even remotely a good excuse.