Thank you for the further input everyone. I regret to say that I'm jut still not sure. I told my neighbor [a woman and registered nurse] and she said that I was reading into it too deeply and if he wanted to hurt me he would have and could have and that he has been very supportive of me in the past [going with me for a surgery] and he probably was just 'horny' when he came over and was into pushing limits sexually but that there was no harm done by my own admission. She said, I should make it work for me...if that's what *I* want meaning, if I want to see him, then I should do it on my own terms, but shut him down if I don't. Adding that he is a law enforcement officer, I do not in any way want to end up on his **** list.