I think the biggest issue here is that you are not TELLING your T that she is crossing your boundaries. I agree that what she is doing sounds odd, but it is your responsibility to tell her that she is crossing boundaries and making you uncomfortable. Perhaps she has a logical reason for her tactics, but you'll never know, because you never asked. And, even if she has a logical reason, if it makes you uncomfortable, you have the right to say so and have her stop. It's your therapy, so you need to tell her what you need, what you find helpful, and what you DON'T find helpful. If you act like you are comfortable with what she is doing then she will think it is really helping you and continue to continue with the same kinds of behaviors and strategies. I you say nothing, then you are collaborating in the continuation of these boundary crossings (because she doesn't know she is crossing your boundaries). T's are not mind readers; they need to be told when they have done something that makes you uncomfortable.