Mine actually reassures me when I ask for it. But, I'm very clear that is what i need in the moment, and it's not a constant thing. Usually, if something has happened between my therapist and I that leaves me questioning the relationship, or feeling very unsafe or insecure, I will tell T that I need to know if everything is still okay between us. Or, I'll tell her "I need some reassurance that what I shared with you hasn't screwed up anything between us."

However, T knows that my history consists of me sharing things with people I thought I could trust and then having it turn out badly. So, that is my automatic assumption. Instead of convincing myself that T hates me or that I've screwed up the relationship, it is easier for me to just ask her. Then I don't have to try and mind read.

T doesn't offer smpty platitudes. However, if I ask for reassurance over a specific event, she will give that reassurance in a specific manner (ex: telling me that the relationship is still strong and solid in her view, telling me that what I'm experiencing is normal, telling me that it's okay to need and ask for help, etc)