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Originally Posted by ScrewedUpMe
Thank you. I appreciate the response and that does make alot of sense. But you are exactly right when you say she should have discussed it with me if she wanted to do things differently. I am now left feeling I did something wrong to make her stop replying. I don't even mind if she would prefer not to do that if she thinks it's better for me or I am stronger now, but she needs to tell me!
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I know it feels as though she should bring it up before making a change (if it's purposeful), but I'm not sure that's necessarily for the best. It isn't just about rules and boundaries, but also about changing things up maybe to provoke a reaction that she believes needs to be explored. It is a kind of manipulation, to be sure, but for a good purpose.
To take a page from Stopdog's book, they are wily creatures.