I think that showing sexually explicit photos to a client is highly unorthodox, especially without giving an explanation of the therapeutic purpose, and giving the client an opportunity to decline. Monalisasmile, you think your T did this to help you embrace your sexuality, but is that mind reading on your part, or did she tell you this? I would be weirded out if my T handed me a bunch of such photos to look through!

I would not like if my new T were my former T's supervisor. It would seem somehow incestuous. I would also be worried that my former T had spoken to my new T previously about me when I was her client and perhaps continued that in the present, even though it would breach confidentiality. I would want a relationship with a new T to start with a blank slate--I would want my new T to form her own impressions of me without being swayed, even if unconsciously, by what a former T had said. It sounds like you did not know current T was your former T's supervisor before you became her client? But somehow this came out later? I think it would be important for transparency on this issue from the start. When my T referred me and a family member to another therapist for family therapy, he told me of his relationship with the other guy (classmates, knew each other for 20 years) and the new therapist made sure to tell me how he knew my individual therapist (classmates, knew each other for 20 years). It is good they got their stories straight!

I did not like the exercise you described where T came and sat next to you in your face to try to get you to exert your boundaries. It feels physically invasive to me, and threatening. I am not sure the ends (getting you to state your boundaries) justify the means. She could have found a way to do that non-physically, by doing a role play, etc.