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Originally Posted by Perna
No one can read other people's minds or even their "faces"/emotions well, it's hard enough to understand words. If you ask another person what they think/feel and they tell you, you have to take them at their word as they are the only one who can know for sure what they are thinking/feeling. That does not mean your perceptions are "wrong", you saw/felt irritation but that's about you, not about the other person!
It should not bother you much if what you perceive and what the other person says do not match; that you doubt yourself/your perceptions is what you probably should work on. All of it, your perceptions and how you think about them and what the person says and how it all does not match, etc. is just information for you to decide what you want to do.
You did your best to check out your perceptions and I would be very proud of that; a lot of people just go with what they themselves feel and do not ask the "expert", the other person what is actually going on with them. But ultimately you have to decide the "weight" of your information. Why was whether he/someone else was irritated or not of such importance to you? Their problem.
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Just to clarify, I didn't say I could read minds,
I definitely can't (at least without my crystal ball, ha). xT used to tell me that I was very perceptive and as such, he said the thought it best to be affectually honest with me. I liked that, because it taught me how to tolerate others being irritated with me, it taught me that just because other people are angry, that even if I think I have done something to deserve that, that I am allowed to make mistakes here and there. I am still figuring this all out, but it does tend to bother me when other people are angry with me. I'm sure there's a reason for that? Thanks for your post!