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Originally Posted by Antimatter
When I posted on this thread earlier, I forgot to add that I think that the OP would best be served if the T had been forthcoming about any kind of manipulative techniques being used. I suppose that increasing distress tolerance is a worthy goal, or finding out how/why one reacts as they do. I suppose it goes back to therapy being safe but not too safe.
If the patient ends up overcoming a problem or increasing his/her distress tolerance, all the better. I worry about T's being wiley because it might interfere with trust issues. Also, maybe it is me an my trust issues, but I have a hard time thinking of my T using a technique that causes me massive distress, to a point where it isn't therapeutical, and me not really being able to do anything about it at the time. I have difficulty with the Machiavellian tenet that the ends justify the means. I am not rigid on this concept, and I think it would be a good discussion, maybe in another thread.
SUM, I hope you are doing okay!!  |
Thanks Antimatter
I really appreciate your reply. You are spot on. I am not at all in agreement of things being 'done for my own good' without me being informed because being someone with BPD, I have massive trust issues and don't deal well with loose boundaries. I need to know what is happening and why at all times. And in any case, I really don't think T is doing this for a particular reason i.e to teach me something. I don't mean that she has any bad intention, but I genuinely think she is sometimes a bit slack and has 'forgotten' to reply to my email (she has now had 3 working days to at least acknowledge it!). And this isn't the first time recently. If I bring it up, I'm sure she will say she didn't want to upset me etc. etc and that she had stuff going on. But she used to always reply and even told me she had stuff going on at the time. It doesn't make sense to me. I feel she is less committed in general as she doesn't seem to remember what was in my emails sometimes. And in my last mail a few weeks ago, I asked her right at the beginning if it was still okay to email and she did not answer that at all in her response. So now I am really feeling like I have done something wrong and I feel so stupid and pathetic for sending my stupid emails! At first I was hurt and disappointed, now I am just damn angry with her and am on the verge of cancelling Wednesday's appointment!
