So... is it fair of me to keep going to therapy if I don't want to give up the self-harm? There are other things I want to work on, but I don't want to deal with finding a new coping strategy and giving this up. Its a struggle I go through every so often, and I feel like it's unfair to my therapist. I want to deal with the abuse and assault history, as well as my self-esteem, but I no longer want to work specifically on the self harm. I think it will resolve itself with the other stuff, or not, but I'm tired of fighting it and feeling guilty about it. Is this something I should bring up to him? I feel like a hypocrite going in and taking up so much of his time with no real desire to change this part of myself right now. And I'm sure that frustrates the hell out of him... it's it fair to ask him to change focus? Or should I just give up therapy?