"He" is not a Waif and needs to be resposeable for his own life. If you trying to motivate him or Rescue him form his troubles, you will not succed. "Helping" him will only re-enforce his state of mind, and make things worse. Treat him as a Warrior, and let him do his own battles! That is the ONLY thing you can do! When it is all said in done, he will thank you for doing that.