One thing, i dont think that anyone owes it to us to be our rock when we suffer from disorders that can cause such grief to ourselves and others. I was with a man with horrible mood/rage issues, ones that even outweighed myself.. and really in so many ways, mental illness is contagious, it affects all those around us. I wouldn't blame my husband if he ran for the hills some days. I mean.. he has a right to happiness to. He didnt make me this way ... It would be AWESOME to have that fairy tale Pillar to carry us through, but in the end it's just Me, Myself and I.
Secondly, i totally get your hurt. I have been in that desperate, painful, ugly place before. I don't think anyone was attacking you, they were only going based on the info you gave which is that your ex girlfriend ended your relationship, still works for you, and you gave her flowers at work, she was not happy to receive those flowers, and you called her a *****. So, please know, the responses you get are only in relation to that scenario and not at ALL an attack on you. Sorry for you pain.