I think this is why some of us start with just asking for water, or a change in the seating arrangements, or even just a change in schedule. It took me a long time - like 3 years - to even be able to ask the kindest gentlest t for these accommodations. I felt intrusive, overbearing, demanding, unreasonable, and i was mostly afraid I could never change my mind again if i didnt love the new arrangement. Here i had chosen it after making such a big stink - id better love it, people weren't going to want to go to all the trouble of changing stuff for me again! If I cant make up my mind what I like!

Man! Does nt that just sound like picking on and bullying?? Or something negative. Something discouraging. Something not healing and therapeutic!

So start with something easy to ask for,, and OWN it.