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And in the title of the thread, you made two self-deprecating remarks about yourself. So based on those two quotations above and the general behavior on the thread, I only see the presence of the second self-deprecating remark about you. You do not appear to be pretentious.

On sex talk in general: so I have a profile on OKC in which I do not list "casual sex". Still, I get contacted for hookups. While I do not respond to all messages (due to lack of time and due to higher priorities), when I do happen on such messages (hookup invitations), I deflect them and reject them in a nice, polite manner, without being rude. A hookup request is not rude (even though, technically speaking, since I did not invite such requests, I could take issue with them, but I do not); a hookup request is one type of expression of interest in you. It is a type of a compliment. The generally polite way of dealing with unwanted interest is to acknowledge it (without making the guy feel that he did something obnoxious), add a tiny bit of humor, and wish good luck in future endeavors (the last bit is optional).

Example: a guy from Ohio is visiting California next week for four days and expressed interest. I said no. He said "boo". I said: "Aw, you are well entitled to your "boo"" or something along those lines. Basically, practicing levity.

And then I do not complain online about people whom I reject!

And what you are doing is the following: you are rejecting someone who quite legitimately expressed sexual interest in a woman who represented herself as someone who can quite possibly welcome such interest because she registered on a site which, per her OP, is mostly sex... and then you also want to complain about unfair treatment.

But again - I see nothing pretentious about all of that. Pretentious is not the right adjective here.

And please do not send me private messages in which you are being extra rude. You posted on a forum that is used for support. Support does not mean agreeing with you in your moping - no, you do not have any basis for your complaints. Your thread demonstrates a whole range of issues which require attention. The earlier you give those issues your attention, the earlier you will get out of the circle in which you have found yourself. By itself nothing will get fixed - you will keep running into the same situation and then complaining that you, a moron or any other self-deprecating word you like using, fell for the same thing again.

There is a definition of insanity attributed to Einstein and within that definition, you are insane:

"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein quotes from BrainyQuote.com