An update.

i came home from work the night before last, and he was acting odd. Turns out he had decided to cook (which has done only twice before in three years) and noticed I had packed all my pots and pans. He then managed to get in to my Facebook and found messages from the other guy. He was very calm, and told me I was dispicable to cheat on him and try and move out behind his back. I explained that I was terrified of him, and that I have been trying for months to get out of the relationship, but he would not let me leave. I had no choice.

He now whats to know why I have found someone else. How do I answer that? I know he is just trying to get a reaction out of me and I refuse to play his games. I keep my pepper spray close, just in case he decides to turn violent. But he is being SUPER nice. He said he will still pay the deposit for my next semester, let me use his car, he will give me money for groceries. Of course I won't accept his 'charities'. Maybe just the car because I need it to get to work.

Despite all the emotional upheaval in my life, and the migraines and my brain short-circuiting from stress, I feel pretty liberated. I have handed in my notice at work, and my life is about to make a big change. Hope I can carry on being strong about all of this!

Thanks to everyone for their support and suggestions.