Our culture imprints on us self hate. It is because we are subservient to rich families (we work). You hear the comment: "Shut up and just do you job" or "your not being paid to think. Individual indentity is strongly disscourged. So alot of what you suffer from is cultural imprinting.

Liking your self does not mean you are better than others. Self worth and pride is not conceat. Improving yourself makes you wise, but any better than others. As you heal you will find yourself stronger than some others and wiser. But you can be a teacher and healer, rather than a snob!