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Is your discomfort about feeling vulnerable? To feel attached can be scary because one is trusting the person and if one has been hurt by people you have attached to in the past...

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Yeah that's probably it. Most times I get attached to someone I just get hurt. The only exception is my husband and some of my family. I'm very blessed to have a husband that loves me no matter what. We make each other crazy but we'd both be completely lost without the other.

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Family can be harder because they have needs too and sometimes we need to set aside our needs for their needs... I think it is understandable that someone would like seeing their t because it is all about your needs...

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Ah-hah! That makes sense!
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I tried to read up on stuff so I could fix myself because I was having trouble finding a t. Reading helped. But rational knowledge is one thing and emotional experience can be quite another...

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I tried that too. Funny how it doesn't really work. LOL

But I have fooled one or two counselors into thinking I'm perfectly OK because I know what they want to hear. For some reason I haven't been able to or haven't wanted to do that with this one. That's a good thing. What's the point of paying someone to reassure you that you're really OK, if inside you know you're really not? Duh! LOL