So here I sit trying to figure out how to be more open and vulnerable. I have a quick temper and I am fast to to be defensive and make excuses as well. This has led me to a place were my marriage has all but fallen apart. I am not giving up.
I would however like some advise on how to let myself be ok with being imperfect, that is ok to make mistakes.
Also I am wandering how all of you shut down the defensiveness so you can hear what your partners feeling are with out making them feel invalidated.
I am trying to figure myself out so I can make these changes.
How do I not feel bad and like I have to head off what ever he is going to say? How do I shut up and really listen to what he is saying? I am unsure of where I am going wrong.