Awesome :-)

I think...

That even once you are married... You bring to your marriage all your past experiences and the like too. I mean... Your past experiences are what makes you WHO you are and marriage is usually about loving someone for WHO THEY ARE and making a committment to be together. To try and throw away all ones past experiences... I'm not sure how / whether that can work...

I also think it is fairly natural to think about past relationships sometimes and the like. Obsessing about them or wishing they hadn't ended etc could be slightly problematic, but I don't see the harm in reminiscing. Or in fantasising about other people sometimes too. There is a difference between fantasy and reality. There is a difference about fantasising about doing things with people and actually doing things with people. Sometimes sharing those can be part of a healthy relationship (but it has to be reciprocal yeah).

I mean... Sometimes I do find people physically attractive. Doesn't mean I would sleep with them even if I had the opportunity, but it is true that I find them physically attractive. I might even fantasise a little... But that doesn't mean I would act on it even if I had the opportunity.

I don't see why those thoughts would stop all of a sudden just because I get married or otherwise make a committment to one person. I don't see why I should beat myself up for the thoughts / fantasies either... Cheating is cheating (kind of a form of lying by omission at the very least) don't get me wrong, but I don't see the harm in thoughts / fantasies unless they are obsessive...