Hi Vita ~ I think Hannabee hit the nail on the head -- I believe you need to lighten up! You yourself said that you're a bit serious and a self-proclaimed intellectual. She is more a fun loving person when with others! You "clam up" and seem to act almost "jealous" that she's spending time with others when you ARE with others! How is she supposed to deal with that? Not spend ANY time with other people? Perhaps I misunderstood that portion, I don't know, but it's sure the way it sounded.

I agree that you two need to learn how to communicate, and counseling will help with that, IF you two haven't already split. I hope not. But if you have, then YOU could use some individual counseling so that next time the same scenario isn't repeated.

Also, I want to THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for your service to our country. You dont' know how much it is appreciated!! We don't thank our service people often enough -- and I just want you to know that I DO appreciate it so very much. God bless you and please take care. Hugs, Lee