Thanks for all the good advice. I agree, the more I think about it, the more I think it would be a good idea to get out before the baby is born, because it's just going to be harder to manage with work and school and finding babysitters/daycare if I get used to having help the first few months. PLUS...that would totally solve the issue about me not wanting him in the delivery room (for obvious reasons, I think). I hadn't thought about it, but it is a good point, if I get rid of him before the baby is born, she will have been with me for probably a few months before we go to court. We have a woman judge in our family court, as well, so I think that will make a difference. He works 60 hrs a week, has stuff on his background check, I have already raised one child...I really doubt ANY judge would grant him full custody. I am not working right now, but I have no financial dependence on him. I am a nurse and saved money so that I wouldn't have to work while I attend grad school. He seems to think that he can use the fact that I don't work against me, I see it the other way...I am financially stable and don't have to work right now unless I want to, which means I have time to spend with my child, whereas he has no choice but to work 60 hours a week. Thanks again for all the advice It really helps to post on here and know that there are people who can be supportive, even if it is just online.