I also felt inclined to agree with this. I'm sure it's different everywhere you go, but this has been my experience. I feel that I absolutely qualify for the diagnosis, yet my T and doc cringe whenever I bring it up. She says that I am not "devious" enough. They dismiss it like it is a huge taboo. I meet all the criteria with the exception of suicide attempts. The only reason I care and want to talk about it is bc I want to try DBT instead of CBT. I think I will benefit loads from it.

I have read that they don't want to give us the diagnosis bc it can look so bad for us in the future, and can affect insurance. Also, it seems that giving us the BPD diagnosis and telling us that we have it can tend to make some of us feel that we have an excuse to act in certain ways, and that telling us that we have it can acutally perpetuate symptoms of the disorder. I don't feel this is the case for me. I truly want to get better.