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Old Jun 26, 2013, 06:16 PM
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Originally Posted by Jannaku View Post
I'm guilty of blocking emotions as well. It's a learned behavior and protective mechanism which works short term but is not good long term. It is hard to find those suppressed emotions but I believe that it is something that can be done. It all starts with awareness of what we are feeling. There are so many emotions; some negative some positive, that combine together and give rise to other stronger emotions. For example you get angry because of a traffic jam but before the anger there are feelings of frustration, anxiety, and perhaps even fear if you are running late for something. Mostly we are not conscious of these emotions and that is what the problem is. Being aware of how you feel and acknowledging each emotion helps us to deal more effectively with them. I am speaking as if I am an expert but I am far from it as I have only just begun trying to acknowledge how I feel. It's not easy. Good Luck.
I agree with what you said. As I blocked anger that I should have held against my father for what he set in motion when i was a child. I did not go to his funeral or shed a tear for 25 years. Instead I blamed people who hurt me later on in my childhood for all my trauma. This was not an effective technique for healing or feeling. Until about 2 weeks ago I shared this with someone and I allowed myself to feel something about my father, I shed a tear. And I said whoa that was amazing. I don't think that i have to dive right in and let the waterfall free, I have a rational mind and an emotional mind, in time I will heal.
And so will you! I wish you all the strength and courage on your journey. Hugs
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