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Jun 26, 2013, 06:19 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2013
Location: USA
Posts: 1,486
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Originally Posted by monalisasmile
I just wanted to thank you all for your replies and sorry that I didn't get around to reponding to each and every post!
I must admit I got a little upset because I get very defensive about t, I love her to bits but she is a little different to most ts. She did lie about not knowing my ex and ex t. Maybe she had a good reason to say that, I have to trust her reasons or else I will be fighting her every step of the way.
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You can trust her reasons and still bring it up with her. Discussing this doesn't necessarily equate to fighting her, it's about sharing what's on your mind and working on the relationship (at least as practice for other relationships) by being forthcoming about feelings, doubts, concerns, so that things can be resolved. I do believe that relationship issues (with therapists or others) do not magically resolve themselves without discussing them, exploring them; otherwise they just pile up and you're not really giving her or yourself a chance to develop an adult, two-way (as in, it takes two to tango) relationship.
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