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Originally Posted by Lycanthrope
Your husband may have low T. But he'd still have a lot more then the average woman.
Not crying has got nothing to do with being hypermacho either. Many men think of crying as a weakness because it is. Why? Because you're showing a weak moment about yourself. The whole idea that crying is a sign of strength is a nonsense. Most people who say that are those who are too weak to hold the tears back so they need to justify it in some way by putting those down who don't cry or see them as weak.
I'm not saying you're doing that btw. There's nothing wrong with not crying. It's a bit of a myth that people who don't cry very often are not in touch with their emotions also.
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Sorry, I'm just never going to agree. I don't see crying as weakness, and I don't see not crying as strength. In fact, people who are willing to cry seem emotionally stronger to me, because they don't care who puts them down for it. "I'd better not cry, because if I do they'll think I'm weak and call me names," is itself a sign of weakness, because that showing that you are afraid of disapproval. "To heck with what others think of me, I feel the need to cry and I'm going to," is much braver, as I see it. They don't fear disapproval, and that is strength in my opinion.
And I know from personal experience that there is plenty wrong with having some devastating tragedy happen, and not being *able* to cry. Let's remember, although I am a woman, I went through many years of my adolescent and adult life where I was unable to cry, no matter who died. It didn't do my head any good not to be able to release those feelings. So I'm not saying this just because I'm too weak to hold it back myself, and I'm justifying my weakness. I know what I'm talking about.