I was diagnosed with ADHD back in March. I was not aware that I even had something like that. My husband had just passed away in January and I thought I couldn't focus on tasks or organize my thoughts due to grief. And I suppose grief was part of it. But I couldn't even MAKE myself do dishes, wash clothes, wash ME, get dressed, clean the house. I would start one thing, then meander through the house and find something else to 'start', then I'd sit down and watch TV for a while and THINK about all the things I needed to do and wanted to do. My thoughts were chaotic and I had no focus at all on completing anything. I felt like I had become so lazy and I have never been a lazy person. When I discussed this with my doctor, she wanted to try me on a drug for ADHD--Adderall. What a godsend! I know it's an amphetamine and can become addictive, but it sure got me up off my butt and interested in life again. And taking baths and doing housework and becoming more social again. So, maybe you should talk to your doctor if you think it might be a mental/medical issue. Also, having small kids can SO change your priorities that a clean house just doesn't seem that important if the family is happy. I have a refrigerator magnet that says "A CLEAN HOUSE IS A SIGN OF A WASTED LIFE". Don't know how true that is, but even with the Adderall, I don't get everything done that I want...but whatever I end up doing, I do it with zest! If you're really that concerned about the state of your house, I would suggest talking to your doctor. It worked for me and a lot of other people I know. And, of course, being a member of this wonderful forum will help, too. It always helps to know that you're not an ONLY LONELY. Hugs to you! And I hate to say it, but BOOO! to your husband for calling you lazy! Negativity never helps! Hand him a broom if it bothers him so much! LOL!