How could they not? It's your only experience?

I was fortunate to have a good father but my mother died when I was young and I had a stepmother and her family. . . :-)

I would concentrate on yourself, get some therapy for your own issues and not depend on your father or worry about your uncles and that generation; they have their own battles and we weren't there/weren't born yet to know how they were brought up and what they were fighting, etc.

It does not sound like your father is any great "catch" and I would turn from him, write him off myself as a loss, and work on my own character (turning the lying, etc. around and working to make some good male connections, etc.). I spent at least half my life in therapy to work on my mother issues and found it to be well worth it. It was/is hard work though.