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Originally Posted by Lovebird
Sorry, I'm just never going to agree. I don't see crying as weakness, and I don't see not crying as strength. In fact, people who are willing to cry seem emotionally stronger to me, because they don't care who puts them down for it. "I'd better not cry, because if I do they'll think I'm weak and call me names," is itself a sign of weakness, because that showing that you are afraid of disapproval. "To heck with what others think of me, I feel the need to cry and I'm going to," is much braver, as I see it. They don't fear disapproval, and that is strength in my opinion.
And I know from personal experience that there is plenty wrong with having some devastating tragedy happen, and not being *able* to cry. Let's remember, although I am a woman, I went through many years of my adolescent and adult life where I was unable to cry, no matter who died. It didn't do my head any good not to be able to release those feelings. So I'm not saying this just because I'm too weak to hold it back myself, and I'm justifying my weakness. I know what I'm talking about.
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Yes but once again you assume two things that aren't true of everybody
1. Man don't cry because they fear of disapproval.
Not always the case. Many men and a smaller minority of women don't cry because they don't feel the need to.
2. People who don't cry are not in touch with their emotions.
For some people this is true, but not for everybody. Some people express emotions differently or use different emotions to solve problems they're dealing with.
I also ask you though. Is there anything wrong with a man being macho? It's seems almost like a dirty word. It's seems more and more into todays society acting manly is frowned upon. Men should be in touch with their emotions they say. Men should cry they say. Why?
Women are in touch with their emotions more because they need to be. Men think more with logic over emotion. If I said to you women should think more logically and not be overly emotional I would probably not be viewed as having a popular opinion. Well the same goes with men and logic.