From personal experience... I think ability to keep house clean is like being able to stay thin despite nomming on obsecene amount of foods. Some people have it, some don't.

If you are somewhat disorganized... i think it's better for those around you to embrace it. I have mother who is messy and never embraced it to "so what". She cries over "oh my place is messy!", She refuses to have people over cause it¨s messy (because you go visit your friends to see a clean place... not your friend actually?). She stresses about it and it's hard to be around her. Seriously, as long as nothing is crawling around, family will be happier to have you happy and place messy then be stressed over you falling appart and have place somewhat clean.

Then I have friend who created a motto for herself along lines "if you judge me for having somewhat messy appartment, then you are not a person I would want in my appartment".