hi i'm new here. Well I have a problem I'm dating this man and have been for 3 1/2 months now not very long. When we first met I thought we hit it off exceptionally well he was sweet tall dark and cute with the most beautiful brown eyes I'd ever seen. They looked like they could see right through me anyways we shortly made it official after the first date. He kept telling me I was his soulmate and we we're gonna be together forever ( I know it sounds like a line out of a movie pretty cheesy but at the time I thought it was romantic what can I say). After we spent the night together after dinner and a movie he immediately wanted me to move in and I was like what's the rush we just met let's take our time and get to really know eachother. Not long after the first few weeks of dating I noticed that he had an anger problem and I mean a BIG one! He's the type of guy who goes for the jugular when he's angry ANYTHING GOES WHEN HE'S MAD. That man has called me everything but a Child Of God. He's talked about my family members and he's never even met them even after me begging him for months to come see them. I'm not currently working at the time so calling me a broke b**** is something he loves to call me. He always wants to send me away when it's that time of the month (ladies you know what I'm talking about) because he claims he can't handle the Estrogen us women have at the time. All I can think at that point is well it doesn't make any sense for us to move in because that's something you're gonna have to deal with as long as you choose to be with women. That's not something that's going anywhere anytime soon for me. I'm 23 about to be 24 in October 19th and he's 32 about to be 33 in October as well on the 22nd. He loves to bring up my age as well telling me im immature and ignorant (which none of this is true by the way) but nevertheless it doesn't stop him from saying it. He makes me cry a lot he makes me doubt myself. I mean I know I'm not perfect but I'd like to think I do more good than bad you know? The way he disrespects and hurts me verbally and emotionally is terrible, but what's even worse is I fell in love with the man he was at first and now I'm constantly questioning myself. I mean I love him but how much longer can I take this man doing this to me. For him to be 9 years my senior you would think he would know better that he would know how to talk to a woman and how to treat her but he acts so clueless. You can't tell him anything he think he knows everything just because he's 9 years older than me. It's his way or no way. He's threatened to leave me many times if I don't do what he wants exactly the way he wants. He's very combative with me it's like I can't have my own opinion without him always trying to change it or question it. It's just sad because when he's not being like that he has his moments when he's really sweet and loving but I get more negative feedback from him than positive. So enclosing I say please give me any feedback that you guys have I hope I can get some type of clarity from this site about my relationship. I know I can't be the only woman going through this or have been through this. PLEASE HELP!