I'm no therapist but I definitely think it's possible to be attracted to a T without there being transference. I've never been big on the outer physical looks of men. I don't find many that turn my head at all never mind confining it to male T's. I don't think you'd want to pick a T based on his appearance. I chose mine based on his specialty and convenience of location. That should help you narrow down the list a bit for yourself. After seeing a T every week for a long time, you do get to know them as a person and can certainly fall for them if your personalities "click". If you told your T that you were attracted to them I think they would believe you except they might think it's transference. They might not believe it's real at first because they are psych minded. I question if they can tell the difference between real affection and that of transference. I think more often than not they categorize any "feelings" you have for them as transference simply because it's easier for them to put it in that category rather than believe it could be real. I can't say I would know how to recognize transference myself. I only know my own feelings and what is real and what is just an infatuation. Good thread btw.