I can understand why you would be thinking about death a lot lately. This is natural when you've had so many losses in such a short period of time. My sympathies to you. I think even one death of someone close to us makes us think what if? I can see asking your T if they would come to your funeral especially if you care for them. I don't see why your T couldn't just say yes of course I'd come. What is the big deal here? Having to ask the Psychological Association? Are you kidding me? I often wonder if T's are human at all with any feelings or are they just manikins we talk to? I've never asked my T that question but I did consider it. I figure he wouldn't know if anything happened to me anyway or he'd have clients that night or something else on the agenda so he'd never be able to come. I wouldn't want to hear a phony yes either. Good question though.