I cannot address fantasies, but I will address the reality part:

Your parents were somewhat careless. A kid does not decide whether she needs to go. Also, when you say, "did not need to go", you are assuming that going to doctors is about fixing problems. It is not only about that and even more NOT about that - the foundation of good healthcare is prevention, which is why the visits to which your parents should have taken you but did not take you are called "WELL CHILD VISITS". When you are a woman, you will have "WELL WOMAN CHECKUPS". You will also need yearly skin exams done by dermatologists, to catch skin cancer early when it can be helped (later on, it cannot). Pregnant women go to prenatal care visits. People get immunizations in order not to get sick or spread disease, and not because they are ill.

So the first thing for you is to realize that throughout your life, you will need to see healthcare professionals in order to avoid big trouble.

The second thing for you is to ask the GP to review your immunization chart, to make sure that the lapses of your parents have not resulted in your not having been vaccinated (I am not sure but I think you might have missed the meningitis vaccine and you most definitely need to make sure you are current on Gardasil).

PAP smear is a very simple and ancient test. It is straightforward and routine and primary care doctors are as trained to do that as are OB-GYNs or nurse practitioners at Planned Parenthood.

She was, in my opinion, a bit weird to ask whether you wanted a pap smear because a pap smear is not exactly "do you want paper or plastic?" kind of thing. I assume that due to your age, you are not due to have a pap smear until you are sexually active. Since a random teenage patient who walks into the office cannot be assumed to know that, the relevant question should have been "Are you sexually active?" and not "Do you want a pap smear?". So, that is very weird and, I would, unprofessional as well.

The point is actually to be honest with the doctor, rather than to try to hide things from her. Also, your parents, or their insurance company, will pay for this visit. A doctor is a paid helper (in reality and not in fantasy life) and not an authority figure.

I find the whole story unbelievable, since in my 20+ years in the US, in different states, with three pregnancies etc etc and lots of healthcare, I have never once not been told what would happen. In fact, I rush my current GP whom I have known since 2006 with: "I am OK go on I do not need to hear that." because by now it is irritating and pointless.

So although she was nice, she was unprofessional twice:

- did not tell you what to expect
- asked you a stupid question about the PAP smear

Since she is a doctor and not, say, a neighbor, "nice" is not enough and you need "professional" ==:>please try to see somebody else next time. If you can, go to Planned Parenthood which would have midwives and nurse practitioners and doctors who work specifically with women, specifically with women's issues, and know what they are doing. And I hope that at PP they would find about about whether you are sexually active rather than ask "paper or plastic?"

But all of that can wait - you do not need another visit for another year unless you become sexually active. So that is no rush. Just make sure you are up to date on the shots.