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Old Jun 28, 2013, 08:01 AM
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Originally Posted by Asiablue View Post
with old T I at least looked forward to seeing her and that was what kept me going on the days i didn't want to do the work.
I agree that wanting to see the therapist is a powerful motivator to keep showing up each week. If I didn't like my therapist, I probably wouldn't have done it, unless I could see he was really helping me each time. I didn't like my first therapist that much. I didn't dislike her. She was fine, just not a reason to show up each week. I did quit after a while, after achieving some stabilizing goals. I didn't do the really difficult work until I was with my next therapist (my current T), where I did have that deep connection and desire to go to therapy just to be with him, no matter how bad I felt. What will you do? Are you getting enough out of therapy the way it is now? If you are making good progress, then maybe it doesn't matter whether you look forward to seeing her or not? If you aren't making good progress, perhaps the lack of connection is part of the issue?
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