I was thinking more about this and realized that I don't really care if he would come or not. He has told me how much he cares about me, and he mentioned once that he realized he was avoiding the topic of me discontinuing therapy at some point because it was really painful for him. If me just stopping therapy would be painful for him, I imagine that my death would be also. If I died, I would want him to do whatever was best for HIM in dealing with it. If that meant avoiding my funeral and avoiding grieving in front of people, then that is what I would want him to do.