my husband says he believes love is a conscience decision, and has nothing to do with emotion. basically what I get from our conversations is that he chooses to "love" me and my family because the consequences of ruining the relationships would be unwanted and make him miserable. He also "cares" enough for me that he doesn't wish me unhappiness much like you wouldn't want that precious sentimental item to be broken. I feel true love is something most people don't get to experience. I can not get him to understand it because it's like describing color to someone who has never seen. I believe it's a mix of a deeper level of emotion, a conscience decision, and a sacrifice of yourself of ALWAYS putting the other person first. now I do also believe that in order to do that you have to keep yourself healthy and happy. so it sort of goes both ways. I do think with love you're well beings are entwined.