I don't think that's anything to do with bipolar and everything to do with how you were raised plus your natural internal workings. I tend to do this because I was raised that way but I alos think I am naturally a giver. Also because I was raised thinking if you do for others they will do for you. I have learned that is false, of course, there are plenty of people who are takers. There are also those who are balanced.

I don't think you are terrible or aweful or bad. It's good to be able to say no and know your limit more than to to give too much and then feel like you have nothing left and no one gives back. I think this is more a problem of society in raising women in particular to believe they have to give everything and get nothing back. It's not healthy and I am working hard on not being that way, because it makes me resentful.