Otter,

I don't think you should feel bad. Many people give and do what they can for others but we all have our limits. Not everyone can be so self sacrificing as the group of women you are hanging out with. I wonder how much of what's being said by these women is actually true and how much is BS.

I'm the same way as you. I take care of my own kid and husband and those close to me but I'll be damned if I'll be at someone's beck and call unless they have one hell of a good excuse. I just don't have it in me.

Do what you can or what you feel comfortable with and don't worry about comparing yourself to others. It seems like when we engage in comparing ourselves to others it never ends well.