I cannot understand how such a smart girl who writes such lovely stories can be so ... slow... and backwards.

What do you mean by saying that YOU have been trying to be patient with HIM?..

You honestly do not see that it is the other way around?

HE has been trying to be patient with YOU. With you, with your hardened toasts, incorrectly spread jam, sludgy curry, and all. It takes a lot of patience. What you seem to be complaining about are some small anger outbursts that irritate you because you do not see them for what they are. They are INFREQUENT and IRREGULAR lapses in his otherwise consistent and unfailing effort to be patient with you and forgive you for the hardened toast and sludgy curry. And most of the time, he gets it right, except that in your usual early morning state of being half-awake you do not see how he is constantly being forgiving and are not being able to appreciate that he is, by and large, being extremely compassionate and tolerant of you - with the hardened toast and sludgy curry.

You also seem to be under the impression that UNKNOWINGLY inconveniencing him is somehow pardonable. You have been with him long enough and should by now have developed the skill of reading his mind and intuiting his innermost desires and the plans that he might even be himself yet unaware of - yet you should be aware. UNKNOWING is no excuse.