Your right Bonnie. I just emailed her and filled her in as to what has been going on, and asked when we could catch up. Hopefully she will respond. I don't really want to talk too much about the baby in case it makes her feel bad. Maybe that's why she hasn't been around.
I actually feel quite bad for my father. I know that he is in my old shoes with my mom. He gets to take the blunt of everything there and he probably feels what else is he supposed to do. He is stuck there. So many times my mother would just beat him down and although he would fight back he would go in his room and just read or whatever to get away from her. Basically it's how I survived living there years ago. But she really does have problems that she doesn't believe she has. I know my dad thinks there is something wrong with her, but who knows if he would admit it now. Shes had almost three months to fill his ear about how bad my husband is and how bad i am. she is so good at manipulating its not even funny. i have aeen her in action for years and i know her so well i can picture her doing it about me now. It's quite sad that she thinks its everyone else and not herself. I don't think she will ever be helped because of that. Besides did I mention that she is just going about her life like she doesn't have a care in the world? If I pick up take out for dinner the man in the restaurant will say, oh your mom and brother were here today for lunch. Or my dad will say something like oh when your mom was shopping yesterday...whatever. I'm ok with it now. It still stings but doesn't hurt as much as it did before.
She should only remember how she treated her own mother. How for years she didn't talk to her. It was like an off an on pattern during my childhood. On it was never her fult. Always something her sisters did or how my grandma sided with her sisters.
Too dysfunctional.